Thursday, December 1, 2011

Crisis Magnet?

Last night Pasadena was the "epicenter" of the hurricane force winds that rocked LA. We were driving home at 1:30am and it was surreal as we dodged palm trees that were littered across the freeway.  As we entered Pasadena we found downed traffic lights, lamp posts and benches in the middle of the road.  Our friend stopped at the head of our street as we looked down the avenue lined on both sides by ominously swaying palms, wondering just how far they could bend before they break.  We all decided that we'd start down our street and scream if we saw one coming down, in which case he would hit the accelerator.  Happy to report that didn't happen.

It does seem, though, that crises have been following us in an uncanny way this year - we visited all the countries in North Africa within weeks of the revolutions breaking out and we were in two of the countries when the wars began.  Just praying "the big one" doesn't hit LA anytime soon.







[And we don't usually return home that late.  That night we had been invited to a viewing of a new film, and also got to meet Martin Sheen, who was incredible nice and down to earth.]  

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Remembering, to Give Thanks

Often thanksgiving springs from the act of remembering; remembering undeserved graces that make our life wonderful, and undeserved mercies that keep the bad at bay.

We remember Thanksgiving Day 2007 when our in-box produced a job offer for a school in North Africa. It had been a long time in coming!

In June we had sensed the time to pack up from California and limp across country on a farewell tour in our aged Oldsmobile. We got all the way to New Jersey with no jobs in sight, and thus we stayed there for months through the job-hunting process. Many walked on this journey with us as waited. And then, Thanksgiving Day we got the job offer that would fast-track us down a crazy - but good crazy kind of journey. We're standing on the other side of that journey now, wondering what is next. And we're thankful; very, very thankful.

(Also thankful to have a Thanksgiving in the USA again, complete with all the trimmings and traditions! I love holidays :)

Thursday, October 6, 2011

"Would you do it all over again?"

...the interviewer asked, as a concluding question of a 45-minute interview in front of a group of students, international workers, and leaders.

The interview had been surprisingly good up until this point, despite probing questions and brutally honest answers about the realities of living overseas in less-than-secure contexts. In answering these questions, we had relived our three-year history: the joys of teaching, challenges of travel, depressing realities of gender roles abroad, belligerent colleagues, daily strains of paranoia under Watchful Eyes, beautiful friendships, exciting music concerts and performances, nostalgia for home, inspiring visions, feelings of failure, and the final moments of fleeing. We were ragged after 45- minutes worth of sharing. Visceral emotions found release again and were on display - like a spectacle...and we had agreed to it!

And then the final question. It echoed to a new depth in my being, and I began to weigh an honest answer. Was it really worth it? To be pushed to extremes? Living in the blurred middle of "success" and "failure"? Giving life and limb for the mystery? Working to establish "home" for years and leaving it in days? Finding ourselves on the periphery of life in our own country? Was it really worth it?

The answer came out without a final consideration.

"Yes."


Wednesday, September 21, 2011

You'd Never Guess...

The status of our "home" has been part of the loss we've felt over the months. A few weeks ago we heard that all the cars parked at our school (for safety) had definitely been taken by the regime forces for use in the war.

It was sad to hear the report despite the understandable and even inevitable consequences in times of war. The best case for which I was hoping was that someone would pry open the petrol tank and steal the petrol early on - and that thus no one would later be able to drive it off. Often I amused myself by scanning the news reports to see if I could spot a revolutionary driving off to the front lines in our little silver hatch back.

But - BUT, we just received an email in which it appears that our car is still parked at the school. In fact, it is now THE ONLY car still at the school because when "they" tried to take it, it wouldn't start. If we were more aware before we left in the rush of the evacuation, I would have disconnected the battery, or maybe removed it altogether, or any number of deterrent activities. But the reality was we were so harried and just trying to get out that these little details fell by the wayside. Despite this, our little auto managed not to work at just the right time.

Yes, we are giddy with the news it is still in that parking lot. It's probably symbolic. The car is the most expensive asset we left, but not the most memorable and not the one we'd be most sad to lose.

Our colleague noted how "lucky" we are. If you know us, you can probably guess that we don't feel lucky! But, we do feel like we've received a little present of grace. It's not something that we were owed. We escaped with our lives, our marriage, our sanity. To have our car (at least for now), is a small gift of love we see from the One who led us out of danger in miraculous ways. And tonight we feel very loved about a small detail of life.

Monday, August 22, 2011

Not So Lazy Sunday Afternoon

CNN on TV; Al Jazeera live-stream on the computer; Al Jazeera Live Blog; BBC video reports, multiple Twitter feeds; Reuters on-line, YouTube clips and Skype calls.

All is still well with our friends; my best friend even sustained a grenade thrown into her courtyard with no injuries to her family.

I'm now disassembling the IV line feeding the news directly into my bloodstream. Over and out.

August 22

Our friends are out on the streets celebrating - crying, laughing, cheering. Their neighborhoods have been liberated. It does seem like a definitive end is in sight...

It's a new beginning. There are questions about what tomorrow will be like, but for today there is relief and thanksgiving.

Sunday, August 21, 2011

The End?

Things are heating up for our friends and we are concerned. We've still been able to contact friends by phone and are glad to have heard their voices today.

They are asking all of us to pray. And it's all we can do.

Sunday, June 26, 2011

The Journey Continues

Nearly four months later, we have finally blogged our evacuation story! Thank you to those following, kindly saying, "We're waiting..."

There is a great deal of healing that went into writing this story down...detail by ever-loving detail. As life has continued since, we are getting a better grip on our current "refugee" situation, and trying to live in the ambiguity of the present.

We are back in the states - and have already driven over 9,000 miles visiting family and friends. For now, our location is Southern California, or "SoCal" if you're cool. And until we can visit with the rest of you, as we say in the Middle East, "We will see you on the good!"

Evacuation: Tuesday

Morning came quickly and with adrenaline flowing. So, it wasn’t hard to get out of bed. We tuned in to Al-Jazeera news to see what had happened over night and got ready to leave. I packed a store of rations to take to the airport: water, bread, hummus and apples.


The heavy rain that was falling was calming, and it gave me hope for the plants I was leaving on the balcony! However, it made getting to the school a little more difficult as we tried to dodge the flooding around the school gates. Perched on the gate frame, I passed the bags over to Jared and we jumped and mostly missed the water.


At the school we found a gathering of four other teachers waiting for the school bus - but the driver was absent. Jared, the only foreigner capable of communicating effectively in Arabic, went to the guards to inquire about the driver. Jared called the driver’s phone and awoke him; the driver thought the bus was to leave at 8am rather than 6am. As we waited for the driver to arrive, we were somewhat thankful that his delay would actually put us closer to dawn: driving on the roads during the night was dangerous. I phoned other friends who had stayed at the airport the previous night. They had not taken enough rations, so I used the extra time to return home and bring several more 7-liter bottles of water and bread.


The agitation among the waiting teachers was palpable as time passed. The driver arrived and we loaded up, putting the three children with us in a place where they could get down on the floor, if needed. It was a quiet ride, everyone watching and waiting. We only came to one government road block. The soldiers looked us over and questioned the driver, but we passed and continued on.


At the airport we disembarked and joined a line outside the front doors, waiting to get in. This airport requires you and your luggage to pass through metal detectors as you enter the building, for security reasons. For about two hours we inched forward in the line, and more vocal and adamant teachers yelled shame-filled phrases at men trying to cut into the front of the line, appealing to the soldiers to stop them. There were three young boys with our group, so in applying the culture’s deference to women and children, we pushed them forward, with women following, and bringing along the men with us. That eventually worked and we made it through the doors into the chaos of crowds.


As one of the first into the airport, I wasn’t sure where to go - there were only a few snake trails through the masses of people, most of whom appeared to have stayed the night and were sitting on piles of luggage, slowly waking up to the day. I expected to see many more like us trying to get out, but I realized that the oil companies and most of the Europeans and North Americans had already evacuated. The airport was now filled with immigrant laborers trying to escape. I noted with dismay the departures board: cancelled, cancelled, cancelled. It didn’t seem that any flights were leaving. We were also disappointed (and piqued) to find that none of the promised embassy staff were anywhere to be found.


As we wandered along some friends saw us and waved Jared and I over to an area they had claimed. We joined their camp of suitcases and were glad to share our rations with them. We sat and discussed the evacuation situation as we waited for the airline offices to open. Over the previous day they had noticed that while most of the European carriers were canceling their flights for security reasons, Air Malta and Air Tunis were two that seemed to still be in operation. My friend’s husband was, in fact, waiting in the Air Tunis line to try to secure a ticket. When he successfully returned with tickets, Jared and I and another foreign teaching couple decided this was our best bet as well.


Looking up at the balcony where the office was, we saw a tremendous line snaking out of the office. Once again appealing to cultural norms, another female and I took the passports and money and walked through the line up to the office door where it was a jostling sea of migrant working men all desperate to get inside. One young man spoke some English and was interested in talking. Men are always “interested” and this is a source of stress and frustration to me usually, but in this situation I was willing to take the help. I threw around some of the very Tunisian phrases I knew and they were suitably pleased. He made sure we knew the real price of the tickets so we didn’t get cheated and told others to make way for us. The others weren’t quite so chivalrous and it was all elbows up and nudging in. Our new friend did help, but he also made sure he got inside before us - chivalry only goes so far when your life hangs in the balance, I suppose.


Our turn at the desk was both relieving and concerning. The airline was in operation and giving out tickets with proper payment for the day’s flights. Relief! But then I was concerned to watch the agent not even glance at the passports as he gave out these “tickets.” He used a ruler to tear squares from a piece of printer paper, used his rubber stamp to make it official and scrawled something on it. He thrust these “tickets” at us in exchange for the money. He never checked our identity but most disconcerting, he never wrote down any details or had any kind of numbering system.


At this point I realized that it was a race with all the others to secure a seat on the plane. Clutching the pieces of paper like gold, we ran back to meet our husbands and tried to impress on them the immediacy of getting to check in. In the meantime, Jared had been on the upper level of the entrance area watching the flow of humanity and seeking the best way to get to check in. We gathered our things and followed Jared to the edge of a human whirlpool, which led to the check-in counters.


Hundreds of men were standing in this area with the police creating a barricade at the front, blocking travelers from overtaking the entrance to the check-in area. Unsure of the situation, we inched our way toward the barricade to see if they would let us through. Jared led and he could see at the front a fomenting of energy that was the beginnings of a stampede. Men started to turn and run toward us. He shouted at us to get back and we retreated hastily. As the police regained control for the crowd we discussed our plan of action. In our group of four, some wanted to move to the side out of the tussle where it would be obviously safer. However, I felt that if we were anywhere but right in front we would never get past the barricade and able to claim a seat. We decided on the later and I led us deeper inside the whirlpool, with the hopes that my feminine credentials would gain us access. The police would not let us through, but we stationed ourselves in the center of the mob and bobbed and twisted with the waves of energy racing throughout the crowd.


It was a difficult scene: men pushing, periodic fits of screaming hysteria by desperate women, and the cries of overwhelmed children and babies. We were very thankful that the soldiers and police were there. Despite the dangerous chaos, the only control that was holding people back was their presence, and they had to be forceful at times. With tensions so high, heated arguments often broke out and the police moved in quickly to break them up. Their technique for maintaining the barricade was to shove the crowd forcefully back, causing cascades of people falling over each other and suitcases. I was impressed to see that they actually had equipment for such techniques - a handheld two-bar drill that one soldier used to push back the crowds. Then I realized that it was actually a detached suitcase roller handle that he had picked up for such use.


I made conversation with a man next to me, hoping he would be of assistance when we tried to get through. I noticed that he was making a number list of names. I asked if this was for our flight, hoping to add our details. He just said it was men from his company. A bit later we learned that people were compiling lists of names and turning them in to airlines to take out a whole airplane, which was logistically easier for the airlines. My heart sunk when we heard this because of the very long list of names he carried; it would be hard to get a seat if the airline accepted such lists.


Every once in a while (I lost track of time, though it seemed endless) I would look pleadingly at a soldier and ask for passage to our flight. They kept repeating, “Not yet, not yet.” After two hours, an Arab man appeared in our midst beside us and took an interest in us. “You must push through to get in,” he kindly remarked. “Come on - I’ll help you!” And with a surge of determination, we pushed like it was our last chance to get out. Looking back, this man represented a turning point in our getting through the human whirlpool. As we neared the entrance to the check-in gates, literally having to pull ourselves over and around people and bags, Jared turned to thank him, but we never saw him again.


The police were guarding the entrance without deference to anyone. One rejected my request to enter and I responded with the most pathetic eyes of desperation and “puuuuhhhhllleeeasssee” I could muster. I tried to cry - I really did. It would have helped a great deal but I just couldn’t squeeze out tears through the adrenaline that was coursing through my body. He must have read my desperation and he allowed me through the interlocked arms of the soldiers. Once passed, I turned and began pleading, “My husband, my husband,” with outstretched arms.” Likewise, Jared on the other side began pleading, “My wife, my wife!” In a situation of such intensity, the police were largely unmoved by pleas. They wouldn’t let Jared through. Just as another scuffle broke out, Jared pushed back a policeman and forced his way through. Distracted by the oncoming threat of massive people movement, the policeman didn’t bother to recall him. This left our two traveling companions (one Malaysian and one American) on the other side. The small Malaysian lady could not get permission through, but a very large Saudi woman was allowed to pass with her abundance of suitcases. Our small friend got caught on the suitcases and was actually pulled along underneath the soldiers’ arms! It was funny - even then! - to watch. Then her husband was left to plead, “My children,” while we were crying, “My uncle!” We hadn’t quite got our stories worked out.


I’m not sure how he got through, but our party of four finally managed to clear the entrance. We smiled for the first time that day! There we met our other three friends who had told us about the Air Tunis flight. We were at the back of the check-in line, but it was fairly short and mainly composed of Tunisian and local families. This was manageable and though the counters were not yet open, we felt hope. We relaxed and waited for the check-in to begin.


When they did open the flight, that was the signal for the soldiers to let in those outside the barricade who were waiting for our flight. Suddenly, that mass of single young men swarmed around us and like sand around rocks. They mobbed the counters and we quickly found ourselves behind several hundred people - all competing for seats. I noted with dismay that the man with the very long list of names was at the front too.


We watched as the tension at the check-in desks rose. Soldiers came in to create a barrier between the people and the desk and no one was allowed through. There was shouting between the people and the soldiers and the airline staff. The government had blamed Tunisians for the uprising that morning. So, at one point there were volleys of nationalistic chanting between the Tunisians and the locals.


The police made everyone in line sit down on the floor, and this calmed the atmosphere. We didn’t know what was going on, but we waited with the others. When it seemed there was to be movement at the front desk, we waved our tickets and passports. The women in our group pushed to the front. The police broke their arm links to allow us to the counter. However, when the agent saw our non-Tunisian passports he said we were on a waiting list. Due to the lack of official clearance in bringing military evacuation planes, Air Tunis had decided to take Tunisians first, and then any others. There was no negotiating with him. We returned to the group dejected: from the throng of Tunisian men trying to get to the desk, to those still outside the first barrier, to the growing line outside the airline ticket office, to the endless line of those trying to even make it inside the airport - we could be waiting for days if Tunisians went first.


Despite our agreement with their policy, and realizing that European flights were being cancelled again due to the lack of clearance, we had no help. We stood there in shock, wondering what do to. Jared began to air the option of going back home to ride the conflict out. The school had planned to run three buses that day, and it was nearing 3pm, when the last bus would come. Jared had already mentioned to the driver that if we couldn’t get out on a flight, we’d come back with him. It was a risk though, to consider leaving the airport to find the bus, knowing we wouldn’t be able to get back in. It truly was the lowest moment for us.


In the midst of all this I went to call a personal friend at the embassy. I heard that even the US embassy was unable to evacuate their staff, and they were holed up at the embassy for safety. My friend advised us to get out any way we could. Meanwhile, Jared made conversation with a Tunisian man near him. When the man heard we had paid tickets he told Jared to check in. While we were consoling each other, in the briefest of moments, the agents had decided to first accept paid tickets, and then fill the rest of the seats with Tunisians.


This was too good to be true. We had missed all the arguing and rioting! We realized that most of the masses were ticketless and wanting to be evacuated for free. The free flights were to take place later in the day. Since we had paid for tickets, Jared ran around the crowd to another agent who immediately took the “tickets” and produced real boarding passes. It was shocking to actually hold boarding passes. Our group scrambled to get checked in.


The change in direction was astonishing! To go from giving up and deciding to leave to holding boarding passes within a matter of ten minutes was hard to process.


We got in line and made it through to the customs area...which was also swamped with travelers. The non-Arab line was long, with a group of Italians who were being expedited through the airport with a company logistician. With only one customs official for our line, it took quite a while to get to the front. We did have to maintain vigilance in not being edged out of line, but it was calm compared to the other areas. We began to get nervous that in this delay we would miss our nearing flight.


When it was our turn, we were a little nervous about the credibility of the visa stamp we had obtained on Monday. The stamp was correct, but every other time we had also received a tourist police stamp on the visa. We didn’t have this stamp this time. The worn customs man didn’t seem to notice or care and waved us through. This was a major turning point. We sent our carry-ons through another x-ray and went up to the departure lounge. Rushing to the board, we found that the previous Air Tunis flight hadn’t even departed yet and we were certainly delayed.


We did find seats and for the first time that day we were ready to eat something. I had left most of the rations with a group still waiting for later departures, but I had maintained a bottle of water and some bread and hummus. Now we were glad because the cafe had no food and little water available. We began to eat when one of our companion’s had a friend approach. She had taught a student, who’s father worked at the airport. This man was the one who approached us. He invited our whole group of seven into the executive business lounge area. What a gift! Inside they had hot food and cold drinks. He gave us a private room with comfy chairs and best of all, a TV where we could watch Al-Jazeera news. We also checked email and sent out a last notification to family and friends. It was here that we heard the latest news and found out that the leader was going to be making a speech to the nation in minutes. We prayed our flight would depart before the speech, fearing that he might announce a closure of the airport, or call for more attacks on foreigners. We just wanted to get out as soon as possible!


We began to contact other friends who had not departed to tell them about the situation at the airport and share advice. We found that the UK embassy had been telling people not to attempt the airport because of the situation. Our embassy friend told us about the plan for an American ferry the following day. The American teachers were staying at the school that night for safety. We also talked to our local friends and said many sad goodbyes.


We watched the news and the departure board and paced in tension. Then, the leader made his speech. It was a speech we didn’t want to hear, with blame for our nationality among other concerns. I was so very thankful that Jared had at least cleared customs before that point. Our sense that it was immanently time to leave was growing.


We were still nervous that the airline may have oversold seats on the flight and we were anxious to be first in line at the gate; but personnel wouldn’t allow us to line up yet. They assured us they would let us know when it was time inside the business lounge. When the man finally called us, we were dismayed to find that we were last at the gate. We went through another x-ray and finally got to the ramp - THE ramp leading to the airplane. When we entered the aircraft we were surprised to find it not full. It was open seating and we claimed seats together. Everyone sat in silent tension. After maybe an hour as the sun was setting, they closed the door. But still, we sat. I think they closed the door because it was getting cold, and they opened it a few times to allow more passengers to board.


We waited for what seemed an eternity. Everyone just sat. Eventually, they closed the door, fired up the engines, reversed quickly made a too-fast swing around the curve to the runaway and took off faster than I have ever taken off before. I’m not sure what happened, but when the pilot saw it was time to go, we WENT.


I was relived when we made it into the air. But we were still quietly tense. We watched the lights of the city swing by. Jared saw helicopter search lights, scanning streets for rioters. I wished there were a video screen that showed the map with our airplane on it. I was waiting for the moment our plane passed an imaginary line that took us into neighboring airspace. But there was no map and I didn’t know where that line was.


In reality it was a short flight: forty-five minutes. The closer we got to Tunis the more relieved I felt. Our travel-mates were obviously feeling similarly because it wasn’t until we finally touched down on Tunisian soil that a full-bodied cheer arose from the cabin.


And then everything was different. We did what we normally do - clearing customs, waiting for baggage (which we amazingly got), and meeting a friend at the arrivals gate. We took a taxi to our friends’ home and it was all over - we were out and safe.


In other ways, another season was just beginning - the adjustment phase of trying to deal with the trauma of what had happened. But this is another story...for another day.

Friday, April 15, 2011

Evacuation Check List

So when we finally realized that we needed to seriously think about evacuating, I realized we really didn't know that much about it; the nuts and bolts. What EXACTLY happens? If you take a military flight, how do you get on the list when the phones and internet are out? How do you physically get to the flight? What can you take? Do you pay for it?

The Internet came on for a period of time and I was so thankful to turn to trusty Google and draw from the accumulated wisdom of the ages, because the answers were sure to be out there.

Instead, I found fire, earthquake, and bomb evacuation procedures. Just about every kind of evacuation besides political.

How do you evacuate a war zone????

While the information must surely be embedded somewhere out there, I made a mental note to write my own post in the service of humanity, in case someone else out there might need it someday. It's the kind of thing you really need to live through to learn. So, here's my advice:

1. No evacuation is ever routine, so be ready for every eventuality.

2. Be prepared for normal stand-fast situations:
A. Have a week's worth of drinking water on hand.
B. Have a week's worth of daily-use water available. I bought big plastic storage tanks that I kept on the patio. You will need this for washing hands, flushing the toilet, etc.
C. Have non-perishable food for at least a week, including food that doesn't need to be cooked in case you have no electricity/gas.
D. Always keep your car's gas tank at least half full.
E. Refill your natural gas tank promptly, especially if there is a lead up to political tensions.
F. Know all the routes around your home; know multiple routes to the border and the airport.
G. Establish a network of local people on whom you can rely. Know at least one person in your neighborhood as phones may not work.
H. Have multiple phone providers, preferably at least one non-state owned.
I. Update your contact information with your embassy and attend at least one meeting to learn their emergency procedures. (Inside friendships can be very helpful here, too.)
J. Get bars on your windows if that is typical for your area. Keep with the security of your neighborhood.
K. Keep your personal documents together and handy. Always have your passport on hand, when possible.
L. Always have a current exit visa in your passport and papers for your car to cross the border. (Note: this is where we failed :) )
M. Keep a supply of local and foreign currency on hand - enough to secure plane tickets or other transport...and any accompanying bribes (now is not a good time for ethics).
N. But, don't have so much local cash that it would be difficult to leave with it, or so that you would loose significant amounts if the currency collapsed.
O. Have a well stocked medical kit.
P. Keep extra phone credit on hand. When tensions increase, stock up on it. You will need it to get advice, check in with friends and make logistical plans.

3. When tensions mount, increase your perishable food stocks, refresh your water, keep your clothes and dishes cleaned, as much as possible and purchase extras of the above. Try to pay any workers what you owe them; they will need the cash if the situation gets bad.

4. Seek out local advice. Locals know much better what is going on and the situation on the streets. Get advice on where and when to travel, and if and when evacuation is advisable. They can also help secure supplies when resources are limited or it is dangerous to be on the streets.

5. Know who among your friends is well-placed to help you overcome hurdles in bureaucracy.

6. Keep up with the news as much as possible. Use multiple media sources as they choose to report different perspectives and different amounts of information. Some report immediately and some wait to verify accounts.

7. Don't wait too late to leave. By the time you feel unsafe, it may be too late to leave safely. Watch the multi-national corporations. They often evacuate early-on.

8. Don't travel after dark or before dawn. Stay off the streets as much as possible.

9. A baseball bat is said to be the best home defense.

10. Lock interior doors and windows as you leave. But note, our landlord wanted to get into our kitchen to turn off the refrigerator.

11. If you have the time, photograph your apartment/car for documentation. It might be helpful to pack up special objects so they can easily be shipped to you, should that be necessary.
12. Flights:
A. Use whatever means possible to book a flight, possibly purchasing multiple tickets, just in case.
B. Flights may be available for purchase only at the airport while not being offered online or in the offices.
C. Large commercial carriers' insurance policies are jeopardized by war zones, so they may cancel their flights.
D. Local carriers may choose to use their flights to evacuation their nationals, e.g. Egyptians only on Egypt Air.
E. Talk to people who have been at the airport to find out which carriers are actually making their flights and pursue those tickets.

13. Airport:
A. Take food and water (enough to last several days and enough to share).
B. Take hygienic resources; any toilets there will probably be quickly overwhelmed.
C. Take a blanket; airport floors are hard and cold when you sleep on them; or you may be stuck outside. In this case, something waterproof is most helpful.
D. Use women or children to get to safer locations. In some cultures they will honor these "vulnerable groups." In this case, make children plainly visible and take them forward. Women can get through a barrier first and then call back for their husband. Follow cultural norms.
E. They may try to confiscate too much cash if you try to leave with excessive amounts.
F. The less luggage you have the easier it will be. You can't be sure what airline policy on baggage will be, especially as you may have to take a military flight. Plus, with surging crowds it is difficult to handle bags. Consider only a carry-on each plus your emergency supplies. Many people abandon bags in the airport.

14. Military Evacuation
A. Pay attention to the embassy updates
B. They will tell you their evacuation options and when the 'last boat' is leaving. Once that last boat leaves, you are on your own.
C. If it is unsafe to travel to the Embassy, head directly to the airport. There should be a representative there (see C below...).
C. Embassy personnel may not, indeed be present, even if promised. Don't count on it.
D. Look for embassy staff from other countries as they may have agreements for evacuating 'friendly' nationals.
E. Embassy personnel may be located 'out of the way' - beyond the fray and may be hard to find.
F. If the airport is overrun, embassy personnel may set up assembly points outside the airport in the parking lot.
G. You may get to take one regular-sized suitcase, or you may take only what you can fit on your lap (a carry-on). If you take a big bag, be ready for the eventuality that you might have to leave it behind. Weigh the option of leaving those items in your home.

15. Vehicles: Try to leave your car at a friend's house where it can be watched. Abandoned houses or work compounds are vulnerable.

16. Pets: We don't have them so I ignored this issue, but I do know colleagues who struggled greatly with it. Maybe there is a suitable blog about this somewhere else. In short, you probably won't be able to evacuate them. Have an idea ahead of time on what to do. Fluffy deserves your best planning.

17. Returning: Keep up with your local friends to support them through the crisis. Rely on their advice about the right time to return.

There it is - all those nagging questions you may have about the ideal evacuation experience.

Oh, and by the way, Americans DO have to repay Uncle Sam for evacuation costs.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Evacuation: Monday

To enter our country you need a visa. But you also need a visa to be able to leave! Jared and I didn’t have exit visas. The problem is that they take up an entire passport page, and I was running out of pages. So, we hadn’t applied for one over the midterm break because we were planning on visiting the desert instead of leaving the country. Usually it takes about two weeks to obtain an exit visa and our school does this on our behalf. The “visa man” was handing back passports and saying it was better for teachers to have their passports with them, because probably the school and offices would close on Monday and he wouldn’t be at work. It seemed a very bad idea to hand in a passport in such circumstances.


Sunday night we called a good friend, who had contacts to the man in charge of passports downtown. We were to get a letter from our school and meet downtown at the government building at 7am Monday morning. We had to get the principal to meet us at the school to sign the document late Sunday night, and fortunately she was willing.


Monday morning came and we were told to wait a few hours before going downtown. We were thankful since being there for 7am would have meant being out before dawn, which wasn’t advisable at that time. We continued to pack our bags: one check-in and one carry-on each.


During a teachers’ briefing at 10am, we got the call to go downtown. Someone was leaving a funeral to meet us at the office and we needed to be there within the hour. We weren’t sure what we were headed into. We were hearing of protests and skirmishes. No one was supposed to go downtown – except that was the only place where we could get an exit visa to be able to leave the country. We had heard that others were being turned away at customs for lack of a visa, and leaving without one would make it very difficult when it is time to return. So downtown we went, with much trepidation. We sang the whole way. The highway was practically empty. Nearer downtown we saw burned-out vehicles and a main government security building on fire. Most memorable was a side-street littered with thousands of stones still lying in place after being hurled the night before. Long lines stretched from bakeries as families tried to stock up on bread.


We had to drive right down the main street to downtown to reach the office, but unfortunately we didn’t know where it was located exactly. We scared several people when Jared got out of the car to ask for directions – everyone was jumpy and on edge. There weren’t many out on the main streets; however, groups of men patrolled the side streets and were setting up make-shift road blocks. Heavily armed government workers were patrolling the streets around government and communication buildings.


Once we got to the passport building, the guard outside the front gate would not let us pass inside. He said the offices were closed and no visas were being issued. We guaranteed him that our friend was there and ready to help us. We phoned our friend several times but couldn’t get through. The intermediary said we should wait and he would come out to meet us. Suddenly, down the street, I saw a man approaching who was draped in green and carrying a long metal stick. He was yelling and waving, and as he passed our car the guard started yelling at us, “Get out! Get out!” I said, “But we need visas!” Agitated he flung his arm pointing down the road and we saw a mass of protesters coming down the street. We ran back to our car and with trepidation Jared fumbled to do a three-point turn and get out as they approached. We stopped down a side street and waited for them to pass. As they moved on, we circled back around to the government building.


Anxiously we waited for the man to appear, and eventually he did. Much to our dismay, in our haste to get downtown we had left the authorization letter from our school on the table in the staff room. Jared discussed the issue with the man who looked apprehensive about giving a visa without any paperwork. The verdict was that it was impossible to issue the visas without the letters, despite ensuing chaos country-wide. The man would wait for our return. In the meantime, our intermediary contact said they were burning files and the whole office would be abandoned in one hour.


As we navigated the side streets on route back to the school we saw makeshift road barriers, smoldering fires in the streets and rubble. We raced down the highway and a friend met us outside with the letters; we made the return journey in record time - around 25 minutes going and returning. We handed the papers over and watchfully waited in the car. After a while the man returned and told me to get in the backseat. He climbed in and took us to another office. I watched a string of pick-up trucks drive by, each filled with soldiers.


The man returned and tried to force us to accept final exit visas, which would mean that we could not return. He was unhappy with our nationality and religion and blamed the uprising on us. Jared stood firm in his resolution, waving his arm in dismissal of the man’s proposal. Eventually the man got back in the car and guided us back to the original office. This time the guard allowed us to park inside the gate and Jared went with the liaison inside the building while I waited in the car.


The past twenty-four hours had been dragging by with events escalating by the minute. However it was this time of sitting in the car alone, praying for visas that was excruciating for me. Other times I felt so occupied with the events at hand that I didn’t notice how long time was. But sitting alone with little to watch and nothing to do was agonizing. I decided to watch the clock and see how time was progressing, only to be dismayed to find that a few minutes felt like half an hour!


Jared was having an experience of his own. Hours of varying offices visits, lengthy Arabic discussions, and bureaucracy ensued. The visa man continued to blame all the problems on foreigners, namely Americans, and said he could not get the visas. He continually received phone calls from pro-government personnel updating him on skirmishes and appeared to take pride or pleasure in the fighting and upcoming air raids.


After several hours, Jared and the man came back and got in the car. Jared shook his head and said they couldn’t get them. The man turned to look at me and ask what I thought. I raised my hands in dismay and confusion and then they laughed. Although a strange time to make a joke, the visa man wanted to see my reaction. I was not happy with him, but thankful for the visas. The man advised that we needed to go directly to the airport and leave the country immediately because things were going to be bad that night.


All we wanted to do was get home before the 5pm curfew and try to get our things together and book flights. But the man needed a ride to an office across town and it was the least we could do to repay him. It was disconcerting to drive him 40 minutes out of the way when we felt so anxious about time.


We reached home safely and celebrated our visas with our friends. These friends had also been in a sticky situation since they had a passport-less newborn baby. Their ability to get out didn’t seem positive and we told them the weekend before that we would not leave without them. We figured we might have to wait for official evacuations before they and the baby could get out. But when we returned home we learned that they had gotten all their papers in order and had already bought tickets! My stomach dropped a bit when I realized that we were then the only ones without tickets to leave.


Immediately we got on the internet and there appeared to be two tickets leaving the following day to London, and at a great price. I felt so relieved and moved to purchase them. However, that transaction would not go through, and nor would any other purchase I tried. All on-line reservations were frozen. I scanned our Skype list and saw my brother-in-law online. I called him and asked him to call the reservations number and inquire about booking. The help desk told him, “There seems to be some unrest in the region and I’m having trouble booking flights.” Really?!! She talked through several flights – we were trying for a $1,600 a piece ticket that put us through Malta, Amsterdam, Brussels and London – a mini tour of Europe capitals that we couldn’t split up! It was frustrating how much the airlines put up prices in light of the situation. But whatever the expense, we were willing to pay. I was just telling my brother-in-law, “Book anything; anything! No matter what the price,” and then the internet cut off. I felt so bad for him not knowing what might be happening to us. With that setback we knew that we would be unable to purchase tickets.


Our plan at that point was to get to the airport. Lots of our friends had bought multiple tickets trying to ensure their departure. We hoped we might be able to find space from some of these no-shows on later flights. We had also heard there might be flights that could only be purchased at the airport. And if all else failed, we had been assured that there would be embassy personnel at the airport to assist us – perhaps on a military evacuation. But it seemed that getting to the airport was the only way to get out.


That night we repacked. Someone mentioned that on military evacuations you’re only allowed to take what you can hold on your lap. So my carefully packed check-in suitcases were stored in the corner of our bedroom, and we rearranged our two carry-on rollers. After having already decided what was important to us to take in regular suitcases, it was hard to then downsize. It was emotional and disappointing. We stayed up late moving plants outside, locking things into our back rooms and moving our car to the school for long-term parking.


We went to bed planning to be up early to catch the first bus from our school going to the airport. We wondered what we'd find and how long we would stay there.

Saturday, April 2, 2011

April Fool's Fool

You might know how much I enjoy just about every holiday celebration, and with what delight and deliberation I prepare an annual April Fool's prank for Jared. Nothing perilous or heart-stopping, but I have been known to send mail from the graduate school president calling for a rather uncomfortable meeting, for example. That kind of dreadful thing that I only allow to go on for a measured period of time; I don't make him suffer long. But it is fun because he falls for it every year and that lends enjoyment to the planning phase.

So this year, while still fairly fresh from evacuation I decided I still wanted to do something. My mischievous mind churned and revealed what would be an incredible prank: 1. open an email account remarkably similar to that of the principal of the school for which we taught 2. compose an email indicating that due to the war, the school was being closed and our teaching contracts were being immediately cancelled, with no plan for us to return to North Africa.

This would be an awful prank. So awful that compassion moved me to rethink the idea. It would be heart-breaking, even if only believed for a minute. I couldn't lead my husband through that shock, grief, despair, and confusion for a laugh; it just wouldn't be funny.

I was mulling this over in my mind when April 1st rolled around and I had consented to let this day pass without prank, marking the emotional difficulty we were in.

And then it happened. An email in our inbox; from our principal: the school was closing and our contracts were cancelled. They would try to atttend to our things, if possible.

That was it. Over. The dreaded thing had occurred and it marked a change in our evacuation. We were on the road with no contracts to return to; no jobs waiting for us. Just faith.

Monday, March 28, 2011

Evacuation: Sunday

Sunday, school was in session and promised to be for the rest of the week. Forty-five percent of the students were in attendance at the beginning of the day, but throughout the day parents arrived at classroom doors to take their children to the airport for departure; the multinational companies were evacuating and other families were following suit. I wonder how many were actually present by the time school finished. Some students were chanting the pro-government slogans that were airing on state television. Weeks before the school had forbidden political discussion of any kind, but it was the elephant in the room that no one could deny. We were all tense; all wondering what was happening. Teachers were gathering in the hallways and in corners to talk about events and discuss evacuation. During one class I caught myself pacing back and forth across the room and had to sit down to stop myself. Not much educating took place at school that day.

I work part-time, so I went home during my breaks to watch the news; it didn’t look good. At the end of school on Sunday students were provided with a letter home stating that due to low attendance rates, the school would extend the already scheduled mid-term break which was due to start at the end of the week. Calling off classes for political reasons would be to side with the anti-government forces and acknowledge that something was wrong. Teachers were free to leave if we wished as long as we provided contact details, and still planned to come back by the end of mid-term break, two weeks later.

After school, Jared and I went home to see the latest news. We met with some of our neighbors and close friends to discuss the situation and consider evacuation. Since the past Thursday people had been itching to evacuate; tensions were high and panic had begun to creep in. For us, the decision to evacuate was very difficult. We have many local friends we care deeply about, and had worked hard to make our home there for three years. We didn’t want to leave if we didn’t have to. The problem is, you generally don’t know you really have to leave until it is too late. All weekend Jared had been saying that we were not going to evacuate, even if others were.

Then, Sunday night we listened to the leader’s son make a speech. We were hoping he would step in with words of moderation and peace. Instead, he vowed to fight to the last man, woman, child. At that moment Jared said, “Pack a bag now.” That swift turn was a lot for me to handle. I wasn't sure that we should stay through anything, but I thought packing a back right there and then might have been rash. As it turned out, he was right and getting a bag packed of critical documents actually helped us feel less anxious because we were prepared if we had to leave at a moment’s notice. It was the first of a series of swift changes and decision making moments that would be so difficult over the next two days.

We were agonizing over whether we should evacuate or not when our local landlord came over to advise us on the situation. He said the government had announced a 48-hour timeline for people to hand in weapons and surrender. After that, D-day would begin. He advised us to leave if we could. We called other local friends and they also said we should leave for the time being. Having the advice of our local friends was so important to us. We struggled with feeling we were abandoning them, but their blessings released us. We knew that when things got difficult we would be in a very different position as foreigners. We decided to try to evacuate.

Sunday night I began to pack our things and watched the news. Some friends came over and we had a meal together. We even played Phase 10 as we tried to disconnect from the anxiety, yet we still went to bed feeling anxious.

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Evacuation: Prelude

You know the end of the story – we made it out. If we had known the ending, it might have been easier to go through.

We started watching the news intently as our neighboring countries experienced political turmoil. It was interesting and concerning to watch these episodes develop, and yet we did not believe similar events would unfold in our country. There, the control and fear has been so absolute that we did not think the populous would dare move. There were announcements of a planned protest, but in a place where pre-planning is underutilized, we wondered who was calling for the demonstration doubted many would actually take to the streets. In the event that anything would take place, our school planned to call a day of “routine maintenance” on the day of the demonstration. We didn’t drive downtown that weekend. However, all was quiet, and school continued as normal.

But then there was movement in the east of our country. This was surprising, but it is still leagues away across the desert from our home in the capital. We still didn’t think much would happen in our neck of the woods.

Looking back, there were signs to the contrary: the children of highly placed families disappeared from school; announcements came promising lower food prices and free housing. Our embassy, though, was not acknowledging publicly the portents. The annual citizen’s meeting happened to fall about a week before the excitement began. We listened to the bureaucratic announcements about passports, visas and voting, but the open question time revealed what we all wanted to know: what were the official evacuation plans, just in case? The pc response was, “It is highly, highly unlikely that there would be a need for an evacuation.” However, they had just realized from Egypt’s experience that they could not count on communicating with us via mobile or internet (we were never counting on that), and they acknowledged that they were considering reinstating the old-fashioned warden system. This was not very heartening. After questions and follow-up questions they said that if we were ever in danger we could always head to the embassy (which means driving right downtown for us – an impossibility if events became heated), or head to the airport where at the least there would be an embassy representative with a high visibility jacket and megaphone looking for citizens. As events developed, we would come to rely on this, the only concrete hope for help they gave.

Publicly, the Embassies and our school were saying everything was fine, and to borrow the British phrase, advised us to “Keep calm and carry on.” As an emergency measure, we are always prepared with enough food and water to last a week. Now we tripled our stocks.

Over the week tensions grew and rumors of activity in the capital began, and we were reluctant to drive further than our local shops. We were told to be off the roads from 5pm until morning light. I became intent on restocking the rations we consumed while we still could. We refilled our oven’s gas canister, topped up the car with petrol and our phones with calling credit, and tried to keep our clothes and dishes washed in case the electricity would be cut off. Our usually quiet line of shops became frenetic with others doing the same. The first amenity to run out was phone cards. The only system available is pay-as-you-go. We were calling to check on friends, trying to get information about events around the city and attempting to get our affairs in order – all over the phone. We realized we needed more credit too late, and the stock was gone. We began limiting our phone usage.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Underrated Monotony

Part of what was so difficult during the evacuation was the necessity to make decisions with little accurate information in a rapidly changing and escalating situation. We also sensed that a whole lot was hanging on our minute-to-minute decisions. Once we did get out, we were still deciding day-to-day where to stay each night and generally, "what to do."

This has left me thinking, "I miss monotony!" There is a lot to be said for routine, and boredom seems a little novel at this point. I doubt I really wish for that, but we should try to pencil in some mental time-off somewhere along the way.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Community

Along with over 200,000 other people, we have entered a refugee phase and this is a new kind of episode in our repertoire of experiences. It would be convenient if it felt like a bonus vacation, but sadly it doesn't!

Along the way we've been touched by the amazing generosity and care of friends and strangers. So this is a shout-out to my cousin who arranged a London hotel to welcome us in the initial days, where we holed up to watch the news, email and Skype friends left behind. We meandered around the UK for a few weeks as we waited for our US health insurance to be renewed. Family after family welcomed us in - some friends and others friends of friends. Numerous people have lent us clothes to use and a big thanks to Jared's uncle who is lending us his car for a US road trip.

Your love and care are meaningful and healing for us. Thank you all.

Monday, March 14, 2011

Birds without a Nest

The great news for us is that our school renewed our health insurance, so now we can come back to the States for a visit. Strange and comforting to think we'll be there this time tomorrow!

When we get settled, we'll make a plan for visiting our friends and family, as much as we can. We booked our return flight for 2 May and hope we can keep it.

Hopefully too we will start to get our story on paper for some of you. I haven't forgotten. In the meantime we are still making calls to our friends to check in and try to help.

Hope to see some of you soon.

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Therapy

Sometimes you find help when you least expect it.

Certainly, I can label the past weeks as "traumatic," "emotional," or even "abusive." But, it has been difficult to articulate what exactly transpired in the days leading up to the evacuation. Violence escalated quickly - and horrible rumors were rampant. Sometimes we didn't even know what to believe, but only knew things were getting bad...fast.

After spending a few days with some local friends studying in the UK, I have learned much much more. With the revolution back home in full swing, they are caught up in the real momentum of the events. Each death is personal to them - connected to a family member of extended relation. And in this mood, we talked and talked.

Dozens of stories about their diminishing leader shocked my naively, over-protected Western sensibilities. I heard about inhumane atrocities, and felt the thud of the statements like, "and there was nothing we could do about it..."

Good therapy is not swapping stories of suffering. But, I grew in respect for my friends and their families back home, and perspective hit me in the face. Our evacuation and continual state of limbo are hard to deal with. But forty-plus years of defeat and shame?? I can deal with my situation.

Dentist: "Have you experienced stress recently?"

Hmmm....I think so.

The conversation started with, "Don't freak out but your teeth are wiggly." Yes, that plus receding gums is concerning. "You seem to be clenching your teeth at night. I can see teeth marks on your tongue."

Nothing to do but not be stressed. I'm trying my best.

Friday, March 4, 2011

Pancake Day

I know the real day is next week, but Jared's firing up the griddle for some friends he's visiting from home. He met these four guys few years ago and they all work in the desert oil fields - with Texans. In the cafeteria they always have American pancakes with imported maple syrup and now these Arabs love them. This year they are studying in the UK and they're missing the hot cakes, so Jared called tonight to get the recipe so he can do the honors.

It means a lot to all of them to be together. I know they are talking about their families still struggling at home, their fears and hopes for the future. I just hope the griddle is all they fire up (and not the shisha!).

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Dreams & Giggles

We're with another couple who live below us in North Africa and we went through much of the evacuation activities together. We're with them at their family's house. It's nice to be in a home and talk through our experience together. We went through the difficult few days of increasing turmoil, but evacuated separately. So it has brought some closure to see them here in the flesh with their two-month-old baby.

We are also finding a bit more emotional space - not watching the news every second, and we even enjoyed watching YouTube bloopers (it's been turned off for years where we live). But with the extra emotional space I've noticed that the experiences of the past weeks has started to show in my dreams. I find myself trapped in various situations and unable to get out. They aren't nightmares and I don't wake up in cold sweats, but I awake a little worn out and stressed. Maybe more bloopers will help.

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Hotel Sanctuary

This post is dedicated to my caring cousin who got us a reservation at a Hilton Hotel in London. She made reservations even before we knew we would get out of the country.

It was just what we needed: 24 hours news in English and in-room internet have been so important to us as a way to assist our friends still trying to get out and to be in contact with families staying. And, the gym was crucial for me - endorphins can never be over-estimated; exercise is my primary way to unwind. Plus, their steam-room and sauna were very relaxing.

We requested a late check-out today and will begin to stay with various friends. We're primarily seeing friends who were with us, and it is cathartic.

I know you are anxious to hear how things have unfolded in the last week. I am gearing up to share the story with you. I feel like I'm getting close to being ready, but it takes a while to get to that point emotionally!

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Thankful

As we see news this morning - we're thankful we got out of Tunis, too! I'm sure we would have been fine there, but I'm not ready to deal emotionally with protests and tear gas again yet!

Saturday, February 26, 2011

How to Relax

I'm fantasizing about a regime of acupuncture, reflexology, chiropracty, thai massage, indonesian massage, hot rocks, saunas, exercise...anything to release tension.

I had a massage in Tunis. It wasn't the best, but nice. When the french-speaking masseuse touched my back, he said, "contracte!" (i.e. contracted muscles). Yes, I know. My back is tight.

London

We flew into London today. The past few days we've been trying to help others get out. As you see in the news, our governments didn't do much, for whatever reasons. We were left to organize our own evacuations and our networks of friendships were key ways to share information about the situation and organize. Most of those trying to leave are out now, though we are still communicating with a few.

We are quite tired but don't feel like to we can let down until yet because of our friends still trying to get out, and of course all our local friends who are staying with their families.

Today we went out to buy underwear, toiletries, and hats and gloves to keep warm. We are glad to be here and hope to do some more resting tomorrow.

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Tunis

Thank God. We made it. We;ll post more later.

For now, we are thankful, and we are concerned for our friends still there.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Visas in Hand

It occurs to me that I wrote with that title when we were first entering almost exactly 3 years ago. We don't plan on this as a final goodbye, but we hold everything loosly. It's somewhat of a miracle and testimony to friendships that secured us the visas. They aren't allowing anyone out without one, at this point. Now I will tell you that we went downtown to get it - more stories about that later!

It's with lots of emotions that we try to book a flight out. We think it is time. It looks like everything is book out for tomorrow, but governments are sending over planes as well.

New Day

It's nice to hear the birds out and see the sun.

The school liaison says he's coming in and hopefully that will help the visa process. We're able to use the phones to check-in on our friends.

I'm reigning in the chaos at home. The more packed we are, the more prepared and calm we feel.

Our Bags are Packed, We're Ready to Go...

Not really, stuff is strewn around everywhere. But we're getting ready just in case. Of course, first we need to secure exit visas, which is an issue.

And we need to decide for sure that it is best to leave. But in the meantime, it's also good to be ready because these things happen very quickly.

I know they're reporting no internet or phones, but we have them for now in our area. We've got friends at the embassy who are personally keeping up with us.

Back to packing...what do you take in these circumstances?

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Exhaustion

Internet is so slow, and I just can't retype the post that it just lost. It's been a very long day here with a lot of news coming in over the hours. We obviously still have electricty and internet, though most phone services are out. We're very thankful to have internet.

Our landlord came by today to meet with us. We really appreciate that. He wants to install his son and his cousin in an empty apartment to help protect the property. He offered for his son to go out and get any supplies we needs and gave us some helpful advice about the situation here. I think we're under a curfew tonight.

Early tomorrow we go to try and get exit visas in our passports in case we need them. If we really needed to get out without one, we could; but it would make coming back potentially more difficult, which issomething we'd like to avoid.

Our emotions and energies are a little fried. We'll try to check in again tomorrow morning.

School's Out

The kids are happy because we just heard we have an "early vacation" due to "low student attendance."

It is true, classes have been scant, with about 45% attendance. Today some students were singing chants and posturing a bit. When this region started heating up a few weeks ago students were instructed that they are not allowed to have political discussions at all. It has been hard to do any real work in lessons because everyone is focused on other events. I realized that I was burning a hole in the carpet from pacing, so I sat down!

We're getting some memos from the embassies and the companies. There should be further information this afternoon.

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Exciting Times

I'm making a serious attempt to honor my sister's request that I communicate a little something every day. I don't know if people even read blogs anymore, but this seems a good way to check in without flooding in-boxes with a daily memo.

In short, we are fine. We live about 20 miles from downtown, so things are pretty quiet in our area. And, we are being very sensible about knowing where to be and not to be, and we're stocked on necessities we might need.

So, my best intentions are that this is the first hello of many over the next few days. Maybe it's a good chance to catch up on some old news. I'll have to think what that might be...

love to all.

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Coming of Age

So, it's been about a year since I posted and I'm another year older. Last year I was commenting on the inauguration of my 30s with a kidney infection. This year I stepped fully into the decade - wearing a neck brace. If I believed in bad luck or fate, I would say things didn't look good for getting older.

The fun news is that I've started playing volleyball with other teachers on a weekly basis. The harsh news is that both my body and my husband keep reminding me that I'm not in high school anymore. The first week I was incredibly sore - a sore/stiffness that was a bit shocking. The second week I strained my neck and wound up in a brace. I'm feeling better by now and my limbs are starting to function again in a way that doesn't seem like I'm impaired. Hearteningly, the other teachers are also experiencing similar coming-of-age aches and pains. But it is a joy to be back in the game and playing team sports.

Let's hope my 32nd birthday is less eventful.